Every meaningful dream and great ambitions initiates with someone who dares to dream, and that’s you! Always remember, you have everything that it takes to build a successful life potential, strength, passion, patience, goals ,initiatives and the drive to work hard and to go after the things that really creates an impact. Turning dreams into reality isn’t just about magic; it’s about imagination, a positive mindset, determination, and those moments of tireless effort, even when it means late nights. Your life becomes truly worthy when you live life of your dreams, and the beauty of those dreams shapes an incredible future of yours ahead.
Building a life is damn easy starting with untried dreams, fresh mindset and infinite positive energy focusing on exploring new things in your field and driven by excitement of adding new layers such as careers, relationships for the first time and everything works through trials and errors method. Next layer will be followed by rebuilding life, why, how and when, let’s just go through it.
We are often raised in the society which measures self worth of individual’s with their achievements and what do they bring on table and creating a delusion that your value depends on how much you accomplish. We think our life initiates with our career or marriage and when we start succeeding means life is working better and moving towards life of dreams. From professional achievements to social gathering, you receive everything respect, peace, money, values, position, relations, more precise the satisfaction of doing work efficiently, what you love. Here ambition is often treated as a measure of successful life. This kind of success is like creating assets leading towards building social image of yours getting respected and valued, measuring your worth by the money and awards you earn or relations you gain. Your parents and siblings feel proud of your life and everything goes very nice and smooth.
But what happens next completely shakes you from top to bottom, and you start losing your peace, confidence, rest and self worth. you suddenly encounter downfall , means all of sudden reaching to the point where all of your ambition and dreams get shattered and you get completely exhausted and frustrated and it’s completely normal too because life is totally unpredictable and you don’t know what kind of scenarios the ongoing transitions will bring to your life.
All of sudden you get showered with huge damages like losing job or parent’s loss, broken relationships or marriages or any other losses . And everything from every side get messes, because of jealously, hatred , negative vibes you encounter while executing well in life and you get loneliness , tears , sleepless nights, restless mind, constant over thinking, bleeding on people that didn’t cut you, exhaustion. You encounter the dark and harsh realities of societies. So what next is how you deal with it? You need to rebuild your life which will be obviously very tough and challenging. You need to rebuild, because you have the will power to live the life of your choice, ambitions and dreams, which is followed by breakdown, loss, failure, or major life collapse.
You need to generate mindset and energy which is ready to accept reality, generate emotional stamina, and must ready to assess what is broke and just want to let go of losses or outdated habits that no longer serve you. You will really need deep inner strength, patience, and the courage to face reality while starting over from a place where you collapsed. And biggest challenge you encounter is overcoming the fear of repeat failure, and finding the willpower to rise stronger and run again after your ambitions.
Sometimes linking your self-worth to only achievements and productive you are, may feel like you are failing in stepping back, and nobody likes failure right? But honestly considering, stepping back is just the kind of thing you certainly need. Re-considering all those things doesn’t mean you’re losing your spark but it’s often a sign that you’re growing and let going past which no longer serves you.
Ambition is very powerful tool which helps you in setting objectives, overcome hurdles in positive and decent way; explore hidden potentials and capabilities, leading towards generating opportunities for oneself and others. This is tradition, majority of the human’s follows the same and there is nothing wrong in wanting to grow or succeeding. Then what’s the problem in following tradition?
Here it is. When you start growing or succeeding, satisfaction and patience is a must needed thing. When your heart and mind demands for more and more ambitions, trouble initiates. The Dilemma generates when you think success will be measured by gaining next goal, and so the satisfaction level goes down instead of boosting. You start thinking for achieving more, leading towards no rest, happiness and satisfaction for what you already achieved so far. Your ambition should resonate with what is mandatory for you, your core values and self worth and not driven by comparisons or failure fear.
Rest in our era is treated as laziness or staying in comfort zone. But actually that’s not the case. You compulsory need rest after completing every responsibility in order to function efficiently at next level. You get physically and mentally tired when your energy is limited, and doing continuous hard working can lead you to towards continuous exhaustion, frustration, and lack of motivation. when you get tired simply rest and come to next level with fully recharged state and new ambitions and no moral values which doesn’t served you in past .
Spend quality time with your loved ones and take care of them because you never know when they leave you, because life is totally unpredictable. Capture nice moments in your heart rather than show off in photos. Cultivate good memories and forget bad memories. Generate mindset which can lead you to creativity and productivity and generate something extra ordinary from it. Taking a break from work does not mean forgetting ambition, rather rest could prove booster for achieving and reassembling. Heal yourself with music, yoga, shopping, cooking, roaming, gaming, get together, traveling, playing indoor and outdoor games, reading motivational books and enjoying. Do whatever it takes but don’t take yourself also as granted.
Redefine yourself as simply a person measured without achievements. Prioritize your self-worth, core values, beliefs, morals, relations, network you build .Be a simple human and believe you can also commit a mistake and you are forgivable. You as an individual are more than your marks, stipend, incentives, position, achievements, and looks. These things are obviously meaningful and important assets of life, but they do not provide a complete definition of yours. If you tie yourself with your achievements only, then failed to achieve one goal means as an individual you are failing, which is obviously not the right mindset. You need to consider failure as step to move towards next layer and grow from it.
Reassembling life from broken pieces to find peace is an immense courageous navigating act which requires foundation, paving process, and weathering the Storms.
Consider yourself under renovation process while you lay down a strong foundation in which a foundation consists of moral values, beliefs, and self worth. For that you need to change outdated habits and reset mindset based on moving forward in life positive attitude. Paving process is like daily grind, needing repetitive continuous effort to build career, relationship, improve yourself or modern lifestyle. It’s easy to write but this step will be really hard and will require lot of patience to make layers of new strength, energy and mindset. To survive the storms like loss, failures, heartbreaks or anything, avoid remaining alone and share your problems with your family and friends and shift your focus for steady mind and inner peace.
Rebuilding your life will require you to enter a reconstruction phase. This means slowing down for understanding the hardest transition of life to initiate form zero or start fresh, understanding self worth, habits and nature, practicing self-care, and acknowledging that you are a work in progress for stronger foundation. It might look too hard from outside, and it requires lot of patience, but believe it strongly, you are actively layering new strength and energy over damages occurred.
Reassemble life by turning your broken pieces into peaceful stronger life by redefining it and turning your hardest transition into a brave and courageous act. You need to get organized, far away from chaos, get something steadier, reduce the background noise i.e. cut some people or habits, create something tiny like complete one small task, have honest conversations, choose perspectives, listen music, write something, travel to peaceful place, meditate, overcome from grief, generate empathy, choose consistency, be curious, dress up nicely,look prettier build forward, go ahead and do favors for your very own self. Generate courage, self worth, beliefs, patience, habits which deals with overcoming any troublesome situation and stay proud and happy for whom you are.
Because you really matter!!
By: Sapna D Khatter
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