Why be a shy person? Nobody includes her! Being left alone in the crowd! Not having siblings! Not having anybody to talk to!
Is it wrong to be a shy person?
What’s wrong with being a shy person? There’s nothing wrong with being shy, it’s just that some humans might think it’s boring and some can feel it’s being introverted. A girl who is shy always faced problems speaking to the ones who were outspoken. It’s difficult to come out and speak, it’s difficult to express her feelings, and it becomes very difficult when she is being misunderstood. It becomes more difficult when her cousins and loved ones don’t make it out. Days passed but she could change herself so that people could like her. For years she was the same person, nobody could see the inner self that she was, and nobody understood her.
Shy person is also human
Over years people thought that she is just a boring, non-interested, introvert, selfish person. No one knew how she really is as a human. Things became rough when she started losing confidence in herself. When things did not fall in place she grew aggressive, but that wasn’t helping her. It was making her more weak, she did not have many friends, and she could not open up to the friends she had. Having no siblings made her feel bad. Looking around she thought she could have somebody to talk to. But at the end of the day, she had nobody. She thought having a pet could help her, but that too did not work. She had the world to talk to but nothing seemed to work. She thought meeting friends online could change her, but as usual, it failed. It seemed very difficult for her to come out of her shell.
Over some time when she was left out, not included, cornered she became a very different person she could not do a thing by herself she always wanted somebody to push her, and eventually, there was someone or the other to push her. But that did not always help her, sometimes she used to get the push that she wanted, but other times she was left alone. Being alone always bothered her a lot. She was happy when she got encouraged, but when she had no one she used to get upset, sometimes it was frustrating too. It’s very obvious nobody likes to be neglected; or to be a sidekick.
She thought that there is a person who could motivate her, love her, and understand what she is, it made her happy. It’s just a human tendency when someone gives a lot of affection. Over years that person not only supported her but made her realize that she is the best. She thought that someone could actually realize who she is. That person actually made her very happy, she thought the person could bring her actual self out.
She becomes strong
Apart from that person, she thought nobody could see what she is becoming. She made the person the most important part of her life. She thought she found somebody who could actually, for once could see through her. She lost herself in that person, she could not see beyond it. That was the most dangerous thing. She could not think ahead of what that person said. All her loved ones once grew distant. They lost faith in her, they did not know what was wrong with her. She became far from her loved ones because she thought they could not see how happy she was.
Eventually one day the cloud of fake happiness had to come down crashing. And it happened when she realized that there is nobody in this world that can make her happy other than herself. She realized her mistake. She realized how far she went from her loved ones. She had to gain their trust, respect, and faith again, which unfortunately wasn’t that easy. She had to go all the way round to become the person she is so that she could get back to her loved ones. It was a very difficult way for her. But she never gave up. She kept on trying.
Believe in yourself to grow
That was the time she realized, that she does not have to wait for someone to push her or help her to grow, it is she who had to believe in herself and be the person she is. And not the person whom she wants to be pushed. Her life just took a huge turn when she realized that nobody other than herself could push her to be the better version of herself. It’s not about being SHY or INTROVERT. But one should be confident about oneself. Never doubt your inner feelings. Just speak about what you feel in that situation. Say what you feel. You don’t have to always be right but put your opinions forward so that everyone at least tries to understand, other than being silent. She eventually found herself. Later she promised herself to speak when it is necessary. So, that people don’t misunderstand her or call her boring or selfish. She became the better person she wanted to be and is still growing to love the things she wants to explore. Life is very beautiful, why spoil it waiting for someone to give a push. A better way is to push yourself to grow, learn, and explore. Don’t underestimate yourself, you just need to be confident and always remember to love yourself as you love others.
By: Simran Pramod Yadav
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