Are you a spouse of someone or are you in a relationship? are you a person who going to become someone’s wife or husband? Then you should aware of this book and understand the content. It helps you to maintain a good and in-depth life with your beloved ones.
John Gray (born December 28, 1951)
John Gray is an American lecturer, author, and relationship counselor. In 1969, he started his career as an author and personal relationship counselor. In 1992 he published the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, Ph.D. is the NO:1 bestselling relationship author of all time. He is the author of over 20 books, His books have sold millions of copies in 50 different languages in the world. His other works are Seven Types of Atheism(2019), Feline Philosophy: Cats and the Meaning of Life(2020), Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Today’s Complex World(2020), Conscious Men(2016).
Do people who can’t solve their own life problems can advise others? We have heard this question. or it’s like a metaphor. But there is another unavoidable truth. Only experienced people can advise others. John Gray is one such have experience.
Gray married self-help author Barbara De Angelis. In 1984 they divorced, After which he re-evaluated his ideas regarding relationships. Then Gray married his second wife, Bonnie, in 1986 and she died of cancer in 2018. John Gray is a person who has big problems in his personal life and family life. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a book that he has prepared as he understands things after all the Research.
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a book written by John Gray in 1992. The book gets a 4.6 rating out of 5 from Amazon.
About the Book
The name of the book is ‘Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus’.
Why the title is like this.? Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.is, there anything beyond the title?
The author states that men are living in the mars and women were living on Venus. Both of them have their characteristics. One day they both find out about the telescope and decided to watch the earth with a telescope. Then they decided to meet each other and they become in a relationship. They started to share their views and after sharing some things it makes some misunderstandings, they found a lot of differences. there is a conflict that arises but they managed to overcome it. This is Because the view is different and the perspective too. Since they are from two planets, it is very difficult for them to move forward together. so, the author gives some views to resolve the conflicts and misunderstandings in a healthy way like how to handle conflict, how to take the right action for a crucial situation, how to reduce problems in the relationship and how to live happily.
There is something that goes through somebody’s mind by reading this book. ‘My husband is like the one in this book and my wife is like the one in this book’.
From this book, the reader will learn how to easily solve the small problems that arise in their lives. We can see how we can easily solve the problems that we often find as big problems.
Salient Points
• In this book the author says that men have the ability to solve problems and get better. so, he gives him a Mr. Fix it a hat. If there is a problem somewhere they will think that they can solve it. On the other hand, women are not like that When they start talking about problems, they just keep saying it. They never think to fix the problem.
• Author compares the man to a rubber band. When a problem arises or a conflict arises, he will go to great lengths to resolve it. Men are Resilient nature. They can quickly switch from stress and back to normal. They can move to their time and go on.
•Men are independent. They think they can do it independently. They didn’t want other’s help. Women often need assistance to help them cope with problems and grief. they need care and a helping hand to overcome from situation.
•Men often sacrifice for their well-being, but women always sacrifice for the sake of their loved ones.
•He says that women are like a wave they have up and down features. Like the ocean, they are like waves .sometimes it’s high sometimes it’s low. It’s really hard to know that what is the current situation of a woman, it may up or down. Men are tried a lot to understand it.
•Men need status and recognition .they get that they expect that their partner will appreciate him and be happy for that. She should believe in his ability. she should feel proud of her husband’s success. But women are emotional. They give more importance to emotions. Men need to understand their feelings. Appreciate it. That’s what they want.
•What men want is for women to understand what they are saying. But what women want is for men to listen to what they have to say.
There is such a small similarity and a great deal of great similarity between man and woman. John Gray mentions all of this very clearly in this book.
This book contains things that a wife and husband, and everyone who goes into a relationship, should read and know. The author gives some insights and suggestions for healthy relationships and tips to overcome conflicts that come in men and women.
The author suggesting some phrases for handling such situations. That may not be useful for everyone. It may be useful but according to the situations, the result may vary.
He gives a lot of tips to write love letters it’s great. before going to write letters to the loved ones can remember this. it’s useful.
Although nowadays people do not write love letters, their value is different. It has value because it has effort. so, the tips are really useful.
Women want their partners to comfort them and support them when they have a problem with what they want. There will be a problem that can be solved by talking. But what men do instead is do things they don’t even know they can think of, which is probably why women can’t digest. so, the problem between them increases. It would be a great relief for women to be outspoken about what they have to say about their problems.
There are things in it that make men behave like this and women behave like that. They always like this. You should behave according to that. But the current generation has no access to any of this. The behavior of men and women today is not the same as the behavior of men and women in the past. Therefore, the book has received a lot of criticism. Although the book was published in 1992, it is still widely used and is now known as the sexiest book in 2021. People see this book as a stereotype and a way of underestimating and generalizing one gender.
Problems and misunderstandings between human beings can be eliminated only when they understand each other and live a good life. No matter how distant the two planets are, no matter how distant the minds, all conflicts can be resolved once they understand each other.
By: Reshma Roshan, Kochi
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